Last weekend I taught at class on G-Spot Play for Whole DC, and as I was starting to get my show-and-tell items together, I remembered my new “Big Foot” locking toy case from For Your Nymphomation. I picked it up at the recent Black Rose big event; Vera from FYN totally sold me on how much stuff you could get into it, and how spiffy it was (I also picked up one of her signature glass dildos and a matching furry padded case just for it to stay safe in).
For all it’s sleekness, I was totally blown away by what I got into it. Two silicone dildos, a We-Vibe in it’s own plastic case with charger, two glass dildos, three bottles of lube, and a bag of gloves fit inside with enough room for me to have packed a few more dildos, a box of condoms, and a dvd or two.
Best of all? I walked down the streets of DC with this classy case in my hand, and nobody knew all the goodies I had tucked inside! As a sex educator, this was probably the best investment I’ve made (and yes, I paid for the case – full price, in fact – so I’m not pimping it out because I got a freebie – I’m pimping it out because it’s THAT GOOD!).
Check it out – along with the rest of their cases. They have a fantastic flogger case that I’m eyeing next…
I’m very honored to be interviewed by Dr. Charlie Glickman, one of the amazing people behind Good Vibrations and their wonderful education programs (as well as a fantastic sex educator himself). His questions were thought provoking, and it was a great opportunity to actually remind myself why I love educating so greatly! You can check out the interview at Good Vibrations Magazine.
…to help them out!
My friends at Wicked Grounds have done an amazing thing. They’ve created an amazing cafe in San Francisco, right off of Folsom Street, that caters to the kinky and kink-friendly community in their fair City by the Bay. Perverts and pastries live happily together in a space that is redolent of coffee & rope, surrounded by books, toys, and amazing artwork. There are plenty of sexy – and non-sexy – events on premises, including chair massages and bootblacking as well as some other special gatherings.
Unfortunately their hassles with getting the building up to code left them in a bind – and not the fun kind. They’re getting popular quickly, but the income isn’t letting them eat away at the debt incurred during their pre-opening construction. They could use some help!
In a recent post on their blog, the outlined a few ways to help:
- Donations of any amount (some donations will even get you goodies such as a free beverage, a Wicked Grounds bumper sticker, coloring books, and other schwag)
- Spreading the word in the San Francisco / Oakland areas, as well as for kinky folks that are “just visiting” the Leather Mecca.
- Purchasing a special membership to the cafe, which includes a special thank you party, goodies, and discounts!
Please go check them out. If you’re in the area, stop by for a sandwich, a magnificently brewed beverage, and a delicious treat (seriously – I have been there, and their pastries are DIVINE). If you aren’t, pass the word, and consider a bit of financial support for an amazing shop – because one day, I want a Wicked Grounds in DC so I can go hang out with the rest of the local perverati, too!
I want to congratulate the winners of the Kink Academy contest:
Sabrina Wolf, who suggested basic scene negotiation for a first date
Sammi, who said that she’d like to see a video or series on ways to whip and flog, what whips or floggers work better than others, and demonstrations of how to get the effect you’re after. (Sammi – actually, I have a clip on KinkAcademy on how to select a flogger, and I know that Princess Kali has other special flogging demos lined up!)
And Meg, who said “Most of the rope stuff I’ve seen other places assumes a female bottom; I’d love some suggestions and ideas for binding a male rope bottom. There must be a few different techniques 
Also safety of urethral sounds/catheters, oh, and electrical play.”
Thank you all for entering – all 28 of you! The winners will be receiving their access codes & goodies from me shortly; I invite the rest of you to visit KinkAcademy.com & take a look at what they have to offer. My great thanks to Princess Kali of Kink Academy for letting me run this contest & giving some freebies to me to do it!
So, what do you think? More contests in the future? Or are there enough out there already?
As some of you know, I have recently done some shoots with Kink Academy, a website devoted to providing high quality BDSM / Kink / Sex education from some of the top educators in the US – and giving you the chance to learn from them in your own home, on your computer, whenever you’d like. So far, I’ve shot video on polyamory, accepting service, and flogging for small-bodied tops; some of them are live on the website, and more are coming!
I’m really excited about them – they give everyone the chance to get top-notch education from people that I respect tremendously, and it’s only $9.95 per month – and with 20 new clips going up each month, plus the archives of dozens and dozens of previous shoots, there’s plenty to choose from. (Wanna see? Click on the banner below!)
So…to introduce you all, AND give me (and Kink Academy) some ideas of what YOU want to see, we’re running a bit of a contest. From 8 AM Eastern time on Friday November 6, through 11:59 PM on Tuesday November 10, please come to my website and leave a comment on this post with at least one idea for a BDSM / Kink educational video that you’d like to see on KinkAcademy.com. Once the time has run out, I’ll pick three commenters at random to win a goodie bag from Kink Academy and I – it will include some safer sex goodies, a few treats, and best of all – a free one month membership to KinkAcademy.com!
Additional rules are simple: please make sure that you actually suggest a BDSM or Kink topic that you’d like to see a video about, and please make sure that you log in with your email address so that I can get back in touch with you if you’re the winner. If you already have a membership to Kink Academy, your one-month membership can be added to the end of your current membership.
So, what are you waiting for? Give me a suggestion!
My newest article is up… “Leaving Normal: The Whys and Wherefores of the Journey to Kink”
“Why do people spank, flog, restrain, or erotically dominate each other? Is it nature, or nurture? Are some people born kinky, do some achieve kinkiness, and do others have kink thrust into them? The quick answer is, “who knows,” often followed up by a “who cares, as long as you are having fun?” The longer answer? Well, let’s take a look at it.”
You can read the rest of the article here!
Today is moving day, and the dust is still settling.
I’ve just moved my website over to a new system, and it’ll be a day or three before I get all the kinks worked out (and y’all know how much I love to work out kinks!). Please bear with me while I’m doing this.
On the plus side – I have a contest starting soon, so you’ll get to come back and see it looking gorgeous very soon!
It’s been a busy week!
First of all, I talked with Jacq Jones via email yesterday – Jacq is the force behind Sugar, Baltimore’s lesbian owned, women & trans operated sex positive toy shop, which is hosting my G-Spot Play class this Sunday. Evidently, registrations are coming in, and it looks like it’ll be a sell out crowd! If you’re free on Sunday at 6 and in the Baltimore area, I’d love to see you – please contact the shop via phone or their website & pre-register to ensure your seat.
Second, while in Boston recently I shot some footage for Kink Academy - and the first shoot on Polyamory is already live! I have a long list of projects that I’ll be doing with them; we’ve already done a few shoots on polyamory, some on accepting service, and a couple on flogging for tops with less upper-body strength. We have lots more on the list, and I’ll be shooting with them again in November! Check it out – it’s a great bargain at only $9.95 per month, with access to the full archives and over 20 new clips going live each month – all from well known and respected kink & sexuality educators from all over the US!
Also – keep checking out this page, as I’ll have a contest soon to give out a few free one-month memberships!
And last, but DEFINITELY not least, I will be one of the guests on FetLife’s podcast, This Week In Kink, hosted by John Baku and Tonja – and the other guest is none other than Tatu from Florida! We’ll be talking about current events that affect the kink community, and there’s no telling what might come up. Mark your calendars – we’ll be recording at 11:00 PM Eastern time / 8:00 PM Pacific on Tuesday, October 20 – if you’re on FetLife you can visit their group, or you can check out their website & subscribe on iTunes. Sadly, after posting this, TWIK had to go on hiatus; I hope they return to the bandwidth-waves soon with more great conversations & content!
Well, rough sex with partners too – but in this case, it’s Rough Sex, the new movie from Tristan Taormino.
Disclaimer: I’m a huge fan of Tristan’s. As a sex educator, she’s one of my role models; she talks about sex & relationships from a personally affirming, empowering point of view, and she’s approachable and happy to help others with their questions. As a porn producer, she delivers hot footage with amazing talent and really authentic chemistry between the stars.
I heard about Rough Sex earlier in the year, at about the time that she released Penny Flame’s Expert Guide to Rough Sex. When I heard that she had some of my favorite stars in it, I was thrilled – Sasha Gray? And Satine Phoenix? And Adrianna Nicole? And Derrick Pierce? And Christian? Be still, my pervy heart.
I got my copy in the mail a few weeks ago – since then, I’ve watched it with friends & lovers, and everyone that’s seen it has been thrilled. On a smallish bed with three other queer folk at a recent event, everyone had comments ranging from “wow, that’s the hottest male/female sex I’ve ever seen!”, to “if I wasn’t so tired, I’d need to go get off right now”. My neighbor asked if he could borrow it once I was through with it – and came over to my house & literally took it out of my DVD player before I left town so that he could take it home & enjoy it. And these aren’t porn neophytes – these are people who have seen it all and done it all (or at least, thought of doing it all), and still found it in their jaded little hearts to be enthusiastically turned on after watching just a little bit of the DVD.
I have to say that my favorite scene, hands down, is the scene with Satine and Derrick. Their chemistry sizzles off the charts; Satine loves every single second with Derrick, and her body shows it. Derrick is now in my list of adult industry guys who can actually use their words as powerfully as their cocks – as a dirty talk aficionado, I got almost as turned on by his words as by his actions. Satine succumbs to Derrick’s pressure to fuck while sitting with her broken-down car in the desert, and ends up laying in the dirt with his cum on her…oh, yum.
Tristan does an amazing job of dispelling the concept that rough sex is solely about male degradation of women or that it’s something that women do because they just want to please their man (or that it’s expected). Her one-on-one interviews with the female stars that run just prior to each scene give the viewers a chance to hear why each one of the stars likes rough sex; what they like about it, what turns them on, and most importantly, how it empowers them. Hearing these women, strong and confident in their explanations about why they love it harder & rougher…then seeing them in the act…is sure to leave many viewers looking at how to bring a little more power play to their sex lives, and gives some scenarios to inspire that play.
Kudos to Tristan!
Get it from:
Tristan’s Website
EdenFantasys.com
“When you teach classes, people ask you questions—sometimes about the class you’re actually teaching, and sometimes not so pertinent to the subject at hand. But as someone who really does want to have a positive impact on the lives of the people who come to my presentations, I try to find the best way to answer—even if the questions are a bit difficult.
Which is why I now humbly present to you but a few of the questions I hear most often…”
Read the whole article here!
