Posted by Sarah Sloane on Dec 31, 2009 in Uncategorized
…and a few updates!
I gave the inside scoop on some Valentines Day goodies to Ann Olsen, who wrote a fun article called “5 Safe Sex Gifts for Valentines Day“. Of my recommendations, she selected the Bwarm Massage Candle and Heartwood Whips’s floggers for her top five list. Check it out for more fun ideas!
On Facebook? I have a fan page! Come find me there & get quick notes & up to date info!
Finally, there is a lot of work that I have in store for 2010…and I’m excited to get started on it. Among other things, I booked the first part of a west coast trip in April for mid-month in San Francisco! More is coming, and I’ll be sure to let you know about it.
In the meantime…I hope that 2010 treats you kindly and brings you all joy & prosperity!
Posted by Sarah Sloane on Dec 29, 2009 in Uncategorized
If you’re a member of FetLife, find out more here. You can also check the Galleria Domain web site here. I’ll be teaching a class on Body Care for tops & bottoms before & after rough play, as well as co-teaching a call called “Opposites Attract” with Jim from Chicago. Registration is very limited, and opens on January 4, so clear your schedule & get ready to sign up!
Posted by Sarah Sloane on Dec 10, 2009 in Uncategorized
So, Tristan Taormino, America’s darling of feminist porn and all things anal (as well as the author of one of the most recommended books on non-monogamous relationships), asked me if I would kindly review a new vibe for her – the Lelo “Ina”, which is the brand new dual-sensation vibrator from one of the most sophisticated pleasure toy companies wordwide. And while vibes really aren’t my thing (see my warning lable, below), I said sure – I’d be happy to help out, since there isn’t much in the way of reviews out there, and I know people don’t buy toys unless they can hear how others like it.
Let me tell you – that was a very, very good decision on my part.
I fully expected that this review would be a run down of how Ina works, and some suggestions for how to use it. Instead, I’ll tell you that this exceeded my expectations amazingly! I have reviewed two other Lelo toys – the Gigi G-spot toy, and the Bob anal toy, and found both to be great. But a clitoral vibe, for me? Really?
Ina needed to be plugged in before I took her to bed, and it was fully charged in about 2 hours. It’s got similar controls to other Lelo vibrating toys, and once you get the hang of them, you’re good to go. A note – the instructions that came with my vibe still had the old name, “Lola” used in the text; don’t be concerned, as Lelo decided to rename the vibe prior to releasing it for sale in the US. I suspect that the printing had already been done, and will be corrected in the near future.
Once I turned it on…wow. I started on the lowest settings and quickly ran her through her paces before playing with her. Let me tell you, when I got down to business, settings 5-7 had me humming! They feel amazing – one feels like the toy is alive, working the main sensation point constantly while the clitoral stem buzzes with occasional heavy throbs against the clit (this was my “teaser” setting); yet another throbs back and forth between the two points, which gives just the right amount of stimulation that I need to go over the edge. I was pleased that it has as much strength as it did; it’s definitely a stronger vibe than the Gigi, but still not as massive a buzz as a Hitachi. I’ts got a great range of strength, too; the lowest settings are fantastic for people who just like a whisper of a vibration, as well.
I was thinking I’d end up using it more for actual penetration (in fact, I immediately thought “Oh, g-spot!”), but it wasn’t a good fit for me. However, it worked fantastically when I let the larger bulb nestle between my inner labia or slip just inside the vaginal opening, and I could angle it nicely in that position to get the clitoral end to stroke in a few great spots – which is a great change from my first “rabbit style” vibe which never did get the sensation happening in both areas in a way that worked for my body.
Because of the satiny surface, I found that I needed to use a little extra lube for it to feel really great. I also found that it was far easier for me to adjust the speed & vibrational pattern setting than I thought; by the third change-up, I could do it without having to think about it, and it became an intuitive and non-disrupting part of my play.
End result? I had a much better than average orgasm with Ina. Usually “vibrator orgasms” are short and sharp-feeling for me, which is why I stay away from them for the most part. Ina gave me a long, strong, and fuller feeling orgasm which was really fantastic for me…a rare experience with any toy, much less a vibrating one! So, what am I going to do with Ina now?
Keep her right next to my bed…where she belongs!
You can purchase Ina at Tristan’s website, PuckerUp. At the time of this post, it’s on sale for 15% off plus FREE US shipping, so you’ll get more bang for your buck.
Here are the specs:
As always, Lelo uses body-friendly materials in their toys – Ina sports a gorgous phthalate-free silicone coating over ABS plastic for easy cleaning & durability. It has 8 stimulation modes, a rechargable Li-Ion battery that (per their notes) runs for four hours on a two hour charge, and the dial is lockable to prevent “accidental” powering on in places like, oh, the security line at my local airport. Ina should be cleaned per the instructions (wash gently with antibacterial soap & warm water, do not immerse the recharger or control area), but I also think that it’s fine to immerse the business end ONLY in a 10% bleach solution if you’re using it on more than one partner (it can be covered with 2 condoms but that defeats the purpose of having two separate sensation places). Lelo offers a 1 year warranty for manufacturing defects, as well as a 10 year quality guarantee, and comes beautifully gift boxed in their signature discreet packaging, including charger & satin bag for storing your pleasure object.
My usual caveat with sex toy review goes something like this:
I don’t usually like vibrators. I’m pretty honest about that. I have tried a few that were pretty good but as a whole, they aren’t to my taste. I have my favorite things but they’re usually for me to use on someone else, not on me. So when I do a sex toy review, I am coming at it from a (mostly) non-regular user standpoint. On the plus side, if I like something, then I really like it. On the negative side, I haven’t got a zillion things that I’ve tried and enjoyed, so YMMV if you’re in that group.
Posted by Sarah Sloane on Dec 9, 2009 in Uncategorized
My new article on the intersection of kink & spirituality went up today!
BDSM is rarely considered from anything other than its purest physical aspect; even rarer still is it presented as something other than a pagan or non-mainstream religious set of beliefs. But what happens when someone who has deep faith and belief in more traditional, conservative religion finds that their sexual interests don’t exactly fit in with that lifestyle?
I really enjoyed writing this article; hopefully it reflects the experiences of many of my friends and others in the kink community who have wrestled with the overlap of their sexuality and their religious beliefs.
Here’s an excerpt from the article…
“It’s difficult enough for many of us to reconcile the spiritual traditions and religious viewpoints that we carry with our modern views of sexuality: admonitions against masturbation, homosexuality, pre-marital and extra-marital relations pepper various religious texts, not to mention directives from various pulpits and sage advice from leaders of the faithful. While most current major religions espouse that a healthy sex life is an integral part of being a healthy human being, there is a wide range of definitions of what “healthy” might mean. While all agree on sex within a married relationship for procreative purposes, the rest of it is a bit blurry—even more so when we try to figure out what the consensus might be about kinky sexual behavior.”
Want to read more? Check it out here!
Posted by Sarah Sloane on Dec 8, 2009 in Uncategorized
I’ve been waiting for this one!
Tristan’s take on sex toys? Right before the holidays? And for under $20 for a lovely, hardcover book? Talk about your timing.